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Dearest Bea,
How you love your
babies.
For years, you
will love them unconditionally, you will care for them and spend sleepless
nights when they are sick, and you will forgive them even when they don’t
apologize, you will nurture them, you will protect them and that’s just the
emotional side of it. You will also work
hard for a living for them, you will clean a house that will never seem clean,
you will cook, you will do a ton of laundry and the pile will never go down…and
there will seem like there is no end to the physical aspect just so that it can
pair up beautifully with the emotional.
They will
instantly fall in love with you and you will become their hero, superMOM, and
the one who will solve anything and accomplish everything! They will believe you know every answer to
every question like, “How did the Power Puff Girls know my phone number?”
(Power Puff Girls will call Summer when she is potty trained, wink, wink). They
will be amazed at how you cooked such fluffy pancakes, and they will just love
the way you microwave those frozen taquitos, which they will think are the best
because you warmed them up. They will
cling on to you when they feel scared because they know you can make all of the
scary things go away with just a prayer (while you wear your superhero cape, of
course). Actually, they will cling on
you just because you are their very special mommy. They will love going to the park with you as
you soft toss their first baseball/softball because they will think you were
once the greatest athlete that college ever knew. They will whisper all of their secrets in
your ear, and they will share all of their discoveries with a sparkle in their
eyes.
You may not feel
like it, but you will be the star of their show. You will be what they want to be when they
are grown. You are their example of how
an incredibly amazing person should look, act, speak, and laugh.
You may not be
perfect, but they will think you are.
They will be blind to your faults and defects. They will be oblivious to your hang-ups and
failures. They will not care if you had
a past because they will think you were created the moment they were born just
to care for them.
Love them
fiercely. Love them all the time,
continuously. Love them when they make
wrong decisions. Love them as they grow
and fall and fail. Love them when
they’re asleep. Love them with words ALL
the time! Love them with actions even
more!
Teach them to
love, to forgive, to respect, to be compassionate, to care, to help, and to be
humble. Teach them that the world does
not revolve around them. Teach them to
put others first. Teach them to share
and give of their things, their time, and themselves. Teach them that man does not live on bread
alone….
Enjoy and cherish
every day, every thing about your babies.
Don’t allow time to slip you by because it is one of the things you will
never get back or make up. Don’t allow
opportunities to fade into the should-have.
One day, when
they are teenagers, they will think they have figured life out and they will
begin to see how wrong you are. They
will not think you are funny, but rather embarrassing. They will figure out how little you know of
the world and how much more they know.
They will reject the lunch you carefully prepared for them after their
long hours of practice, just because they are upset with you. They will roll their eyes when you try to
strike a conversation with them, and even ask you NOT to participate in future
technology because it is for young, cool people. They will give you a mean look when they are
on the phone and you call out their name for dinner. They will want to listen to their music through
their headphones when you are all in the car and ignore your comments. They will want to play video games instead of
doing life with you.
Love them anyways;
it will be the only way they know how to be when they grow up. Continue to be their supermom; though to them
its just child’s-play, deep down they need it.
Continue to sing loud and dance silly when they are around, deep down
they love it. Continue to forgive them,
because it is how they will learn to forgive you when you fall short of your
supermommy status. Continue to teach
them, they will continue to learn throughout their life through your examples,
they just don’t know it yet. Continue to
press on to the end goal, never give up on them. They will catch on.
One day, when you
go through this, you will cry. But your
cry is not for the pain your own children bring you, though there will be plenty
of those, but for the pain your own parents felt at this point of their lives,
and no one was there to tell them it would all turn out ok. Just as you will feel that you will always
need your parents, so do your own children, they will not admit to it during
their teenage years, though. And
sometimes through their young adulthood years.
But like the prodigal child, they too will come back to you. Just pray.
A lot. It’ll be the only thing to
keep you strong and to keep you loving your unlovable teenagers. Not because you don’t want to love them, but
because they don’t want to be loved by this amazing, never-ending, messy and
sometimes sloppy, supermommy love.
With so much love
for our own children, I can’t imagine what loving a grandchild will be like,
but when I find out, I’ll write you another letter. Then maybe, together we can do something
right in our lives. In the meantime,
along with your spouse, seek and love the Lord with all your heart, soul,
strength, and mind.
Love you forever,
A mature and new
creation in Christ, Bea
